Relationships Part 1 : So You're Single

‘How to know if he really into you?’ ‘How to make him love you?’ ‘How to get him back?’  These are the three topics that most of my friends are talking about, and yet getting dumped, upset and heartbroken. Listening to them and reading their Facebook statuses got me thinking.

As a girl, are you looking for a guy who can’t say “I love you,” who may leave you if he finds better pastures, or who is with you only for the chase and rush of the game. Girls, wake up… you or your life is not a game. Every girl deserves a man who says, “She is my one and only, yes she is beautiful, and she is mine.” Don’t settle for anything less. You are an amazing woman, remember that, you have to be, you’re on my friends list!


Yes, there are the secret crushes, the stolen kisses, those lovely dates no one knows about. Don't rush it through, get to know the person well, before you are sure. Oh, and do remember to enjoy yourself. Coward is a person who makes the other fall in love if he/she has no intention of seeing it through. Don't do it to anyone, and don't let anyone do it to you. 


To get the real priceless stone one has to dig really deep into the mine. Most guys don’t because they are afraid it’s too much work. Instead they settle for the cheaper easier ones. So the diamonds deep down think there’s something wrong with them. Wait for the right person who is brave enough to toil because he has realized how amazing you are.


Another mistake girls often make, is trying to keep them interested. Girls, just be yourselves. For God’s sake and for your own sakes too, do not give up on your identity. Do not try and be someone else to keep him interested. The person meant for you wouldn’t need to be kept interested, because he would know you are interesting. The only thing you should have to do to “keep him interested” is to be you. There are no perfect people, just imperfect ones, loving each other perfectly, flaws et all!


Then there is the other extreme, girls who just stop making the effort after they get married. Oh, and guys too! Remember relationships are a two way street. The guy loved you when you dressed up and dolled up… the kick of being in love, of going on a date, of candle light dinners, dances and the romance… If you stop dressing up for it, don’t be surprised if all that vanishes from your life too.


Dress up for yourselves girls, go out drinking (only if you drink, do not change who you are to be socially acceptable or to impress people) and dancing, wear that little black dress for no reason at all, join an art or cooking class, go scuba diving if you will, go to a spa, in short pamper yourselves… live your life. If you have a guy in your life who is falling in love with you for this, good, if you don’t have someone in your life, good! Do it to express yourself, and not to impress a guy.


I wrote this for all the wonderful friends in my life who are currently single and facing relationship problems. If you are a girl reading this… keep your heels, head and standards high, because you are worth it.


I have just one thing to say to any suitor, ‘Of course I’m single, but you’re gonna have to be amazing to change that!’