Relationships Part 2 : The Doormat

"Oh really officer, it's a one way, oh I know that, I was just lost and thought I'd stop next to you to ask you the way!" Honestly, that has bailed me out of a number of situations. I have always believed females have an undue advantage. They can get away with a lot with just a smile. What they can't get by being smart, they surely can by being dumb.

Then I wonder what happens to these super smart women when they meet a guy. "Oh you know he loved me, but he also became interested in someone, or many someones." Wake up and smell the coffee lady, he probably didn't in the first place. Love is not like toffees one can give out to all and sundry. So how to make sure that a guy respects you enough to never do that to you. Start by respecting yourself!

There are men out there who say, "How can you settle for one woman, A has nice eyes, B has nice hair... the list goes on, and on". You are not a commodity, you are the package deal, be proud of it.

There are friends who behave as if it's the end of the world, trust me it never ends. Just ask Nostradamus. Oh wait, he died, but still the world didn't end. 'I will always love him', and the question is why? He dumped you or cheated on you and you will always love him. Does that sound stupid only to me? Oh and the classic, "We broke up, I gave the rotten toe-rag a piece of my mind, later I apologized." Umm lady, you just admitted he was a rotten toe-rag, who left you for someone else, and you told him so, and then you apologized? Was that for being dumped by him or for showing him the mirror?

Raise your self esteem. Don't wait for a Mr.Right to come into your life to break you out of your shell. Cinderella had a fairy God mother, you probably don't! So take the 'do it yourself kit route.' 

Most girls don't realize that they are beautiful, and end up with guys who don't compliment them enough, finally resulting in an even lower self esteem. First thing one should do is believe in yourself. Look into the mirror first thing every morning and say I am beautiful inside and outside and I am completely worth it!

Treat yourself (and others too), like you wish them to treat you. With respect, and if you don't like being the doormat, get off the floor!