"What does the word Hit-o-meter mean to you?" Err... 'how many hits your blog gets?' I answered with full honesty, oh and modesty too wondering how I would fare on the Hit-o-meter, when a friend asked me that question. One of the speeches in recent times that has really inspired me. Incase you were wondering, the speech was about domestic violence amongst celebrity couples. Thank you Yashika Khanna, for that most persuasive, passionate and powerful speech!
Another very powerful speech that left me thinking was given by another very powerful speaker Varun Kotwal, who kept saying "women are responsible"... and then did an amazing spin and play on words by saying "it's indeed we men, who are responsible."
Are they really? Is it the men who are to blame here? Or does somewhere deep down, the responsibility lie with us? Are women really the innocent victims? In my opinion the only thing women do wrong in this case is that they take the abuse.
How many of us have heard that neighbor fighting with his wife, but the question here is how many of us have ever done anything against it? Some abused women believe that they can stop the abuse if they just act differently. Others feel pressured to stay in the relationship because of family norms, peer pressure, social stigma and what not.
Ladies it's not about you! If he is abusive, he clearly has a problem. If he hits you, he needs anger management courses. Stop blaming yourselves, stop taking the hits. Personally, women, respect yourself enough to say that your hit-o-meter quotient would never go above zero. If a man lifts a hand, step up and say "you lift a finger to hit me, and I lift a finger to dial the cops."
If it is to be, it has to be me. Change has to begin with us. Lets start by teaching ourselves not to bow down to hits. Let's start by teaching our sons and brothers that instead of finding the 'right woman,' they should focus on being the 'right man.'
If only more men get to read this. Can do a lot of change.
ReplyDeleteReet.. There is another issue. Physical abuse is one and there is another side of it. There are few adamant men and women who think they are right.
ReplyDeleteHusband: What ever he says is correct
Wife: Doesnt fight against and thinks things has to be done the way husband thinks.
Who are the victims? The Kids!
I am tired of fighting with this couple. Only thing I do now is take the kids to my home and prepare them to not keep anything in mind and concentrate on games and studies!
Uff!