Okay so you and your 'Mr.Right' are together. What
next? Life falls into a security zone. Do you lie back, relax and take it easy
or... ? In my opinion, that is when the real challenge starts!
How do you make sure that you don't fall into the
routine of dull, drab and boring lives? Remember the other person fell in love
with you, you with all your little quirks and eccentricities. If you give up on
them, are you the same person he loved?
Many a times women complain, "Oh my boyfriend
doesn't have time for me anymore!" Do you give him the reason to make time
for you? I know of a couple who broke up because the guy was happy to meet his
friends every weekend but had not met his girlfriend for three months. When
asked why, he replied, "I don't have to make excuses at home to go and
have fun with my friends!" Note the key element here is having fun. Are
you the same 'fun' person he met when he fell in love with you.
My best friend often complained, "My husband
used to send me a card every day we were courting, now that we are married, he
doesn't do it anymore." Guess what, she wasn't the same woman he courted
either. Chemistry takes a huge hit when the sweet nothings vanish! How do you
bump up your lovability quotient then?
The answer is very simple, actually, and it lies in
the phrase “stay the same” Just because you are married doesn't mean you stop
sending that sweet little sms, every now and then. Unpredictability goes a long
way in adding spice to life, especially if it's about those little surprises
that anyone will love. Making a persons favorite dish, baking cookies or a cake
for no reason at all, dressing in you best dress on a weekend, leaving a little
post-it note where the other is bound to find it, a candle light dinner, a
sporty Sunday afternoon out, getting him something he likes, I could go on and
on, but these are some of the sure shot ways of igniting that spark, and
keeping you relationship new, forever. Oh and let's not underestimate the power
of a compliment! Just a simple, "good job parking the car" works
better than "oh you look amazing" when the other person is actually
looking drab. Keep it genuine.
A friend of mine writes a few lines of appreciation
for her husband every now and then on Facebook. People find this the
exhibition a tad over. I think it's cute. Instead of the threat of
"Whatever you do tonight goes on Facebook tomorrow", the
occasional "Feeling wow, this is what my sweet husband did", is
infinitesimally better, according to me.
Yet another friend puts up pictures of her amazing
weekend with her husband week after week. Life is about being grateful for what
you have, and if you don’t have that, make enough moments and memories to be
grateful for! The attitude of gratitude goes a long way in maintaining a
relationship. Just don’t sit there like a cat thinking you are ‘God’, and you
deserve everything because you have a relationship. Go ahead and make your
relationship a dream come true, everyday.
Cherish and celebrate your relationships. Personally I believe you don't need a beach for the above setting. A terrace works equally well, and while you think of your own dreams and bringing them to life, you can borrow mine meanwhile. Give yourself that fairytale!
Wonderfully Written!
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